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Do Women Laugh More than Men?

According to an article in News Medical, they do.  They could have saved a few bucks on research if they had just asked some of us standup comics.  We don't need a neurological study to know that women are easy - at least when it comes to making them laugh.   Judy being goofy

Last week I performed for 450 women in New Jersey.  I always put something funny in my intro to test the audience. With the corporate crowd, my intro usually gets a small titter, but with this all-women's group, I got roaring laughter.  I thought to myself, "Piece of cake!" 

But, I got onstage, and my mic didn't work.  With any other audience, this would have been a disaster.  But with a woman's audience this just added to the fun, especially when I quipped, "Who else has problems with things this shape?"  Huge laughs, and they kept on coming.  Any comic doing an all-woman show will tell you the same thing - working for women is easy!  You just have to take longer pauses so nobody chokes and they can wipe off their running mascara.

After years of doing corporate comedy, I've learned that women appreciate the subtleties of comedy material and will laugh at innuendos and character quirks.  They have the patience to listen to a longer story that promises a good payoff.  Men, on the other hand, seem to prefer quick, hard punch lines that keep on coming.  When performing for a women's group, I actually get laughs on the setups.  Men want you to get to the point of the joke as quickly as possible and not waste time describing characters or places. Why is this?  Do men and women like their jokes the way they like their sex?  Is it that women appreciate the build up to the laugh, and men just want to get there?  Maybe that's why female comics performing for a women's audience is like lesbians having sex -- you just know exactly what to do.

If you are performing for, let's say, a group of male IT engineers, you might want to consider changing your set to connect.  
Here are some tips:

1. Start with a self mocking joke.  By consciously lowering your status, the guys will cut you slack.  So I say, "You might be wondering why corporate hired a female stand-up comic to come talk to you, instead of someone who really knows what they're talking about... like a consultant."  This gets me laughs and scores me points. 

2. Speak in the audience's language.  I make it obvious that I have researched what they do and acquainted myself with their verbiage and acronyms as you can see in my corporate video. They respect me because I did my homework and they like me because I make them feel special and important.  

3. Make your own gender the butt of a joke.  I do jokes about how irritating women can be.  This makes it clear that I'm not just another woman, like their wife, pointing out all the male inadequacies.  "Why do women have to do a complete survey of everyone at the table to find out what they want to eat?  We're crazy!"

Using these three techniques, the men in the audience will finally uncross their arms and laugh.

-Judy

4 comments:

Don O'Connor said...

Hi Judy!
I agree with your post! I wrote a blog about "Man Smell" and women loved it!

http://donaldoconnorspeaks.blogspot.com/2011/08/man-smell-how-to-save-your-car-interior.html

The guys? Not so much! You'd think I was giving away trade secrets or something!

Bob DiPasquale said...

Hi Judy,

It's funny you mention joke length and male female preferences. I felt my jokes took too long to get out of my mouth so I switched up to quick ones entirely. My biggest fans (my wife and two daughters) like the story telling better. Maybe it would be neat to see if men like my new (tasteful) stuff more than women..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3JpEOsqnnhI&feature=related

Karen Laven said...

Do they! I've thought of bringing my husband on stage as I perform my best stuff. He is like a statue husband more than a living one. I DO know that if he laughs out loud, I have got something great. I'm waiting for that to happen...Loved your post, Judy!

Marty Pollio said...

What you said about the importance of your opening segment is really key. I used to hire another comic to go up and do 5-10 minutes to warm them up and take the bullets. Now instead, I plan something "conversational" for my first minute on stage. I comment on the immediate situation - the event itself, the folks who just won awards, the company, the food etc. I watch what precedes me in the evening so I can come up with something funny to say about it. It's necessary to get laughs in this segment, but they don't have to be knee-slappers. It's more necessary to relax them into the concept of watching a comic rather than hit them with jokes from my act all of a sudden. I work hard on that first minute before the gig too because I know if I can get that to work, then I'm home free. I think of it as opening for myself. It has been the single most important thing in the success of my corporate shows.