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Your Low Self Esteem can be Your Ticket to Fame & Fortune

A few years ago, a psychology professor from Florida State University did a study on self-esteem -- and the results were not what you'd expect.  We hear all the time that we need high self-esteem to be successful - but the study found that the segment of society with the very highest self esteem -- were criminals.

I guess that means that people in jail for burglary felt with certainty that they deserved your flat screen television.  (And they succeeded in getting in it -- at least temporarily.)    Oddly enough, the people who scored lowest on the self-esteem scale were psychologists -- including the ones who designed the self-esteem study. 

Maybe their lack of self-esteem is what causes them to be so curious about the topic ... and to take the time to really study and learn more about it.

Are we experts because of our defects?  I'm starting to think so.
  From teaching the speaker's class, I'm finding that my students speak about what they need to learn.  One of my students sent me an email to say she was quitting the class just a week and a half before the showcase.  It's ironic that her speech is to high school students about "Don't Give Up!  Getting Past Obstacles."

Another student is a nurse working at a VA spinal cord injury unit who's so burnt out that it's affecting her health.  She's speaking to nurses on "How to Deal with Stress."

I understand.  I speak on using humor to lighten up the workplace and I spend 90% of my time fretting, worrying, and combating depression. But it seems that that's a perfect recipe for a hilarious motivational speaker. 

Low self esteem, weight problems, stress problems, and difficulty handling change can be looked at as negative qualities -- but I'm beginning to see them as great motivators to improve, learn, and become an expert on your weakness.

I'm sure growing up, Mother Theresa was probably told she was extremely selfish.  I could hear her mother saying "You, you, you, Theresa, that's all you're ever thinking about!"

Perhaps that was her motivation for becoming a saint.   

What are your weaknesses?  Take time to study them, and develop a passion to overcome them.  And then - turn that passion into a paying career.
            
-Judy Carter

Author of The Comedy Bible, Motivational-Humorist, and Comedy Coach. Coming in 2013 "Make a Career Out of The Message of You." 

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

Judy,

Terrific post; important information. Similar research was done at UCLA a number of years ago on low self esteem. The gangbangers, Crips and Bloods rated HIGH in self esteem. Many successful people, the research found, had low self esteem.

California education slid further into the quicksand when $ were allocated for Self Esteem classes...instead of the subjects students needed to master (to get further ahead which could raise their self esteem). I was always one of the teachers who knew the push for Self Esteem programs was stupid and a foolish and never waivered as I hear friends now talk about their low esteem.

And neuroses is fabulous for humor...., too. It's worked for us for over 5700 years!

Susan

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ella said...

Hey Judy,

Thanks for writing this. I wish a was a comedian actress, and so in love with it. But once in a while I stop dreaming and tell myself to give up, cuz my self steem is too low to deal with the show buzz and I'm so afraid of talking in public (even I've done two plays for 150 people already). You gave me hope.. and the funny thing: you are a depressive person, like you said.

Love the text,

Beijos,

Ella

Gina Manning said...

I love this. Exactly want I needed to hear today. And hysterical about Mother Teresa!

Gina Manning said...

I love this. Exactly want I needed to hear today. And hysterical about Mother Teresa!

Anonymous said...

Thanks, Judy. You never fail to amaze me with the pragmatic ways you come up with to turn personal pain into something with potential to be productive and healing. And now I get to feel a little pride over my low self-esteem? How great is that? I always look at my occasional depressions and shortcomings as a possible source of material now because you've shown us all that this can be done and it can be a wonderful, profitable thing. Thanks again!

Dave said...

What post. Imperfections are what make us human -that's why artists are imperfect and often wildly contradictory human beings- and none of us would have personal goals if we were perfect and had no room for improvement. (Btw, I believe the term for those who have the highest "self-esteem" is "sociopath".)

Dave said...

*What a great post...

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