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Get People to Love You in One Minute

Coaching speakers and comics, I give the opening the most attention.  Openings are hard!  Why?  Because often you're walking into a room full of people who are already busy doing something (web surfing, texting, ordering drinks, flirting, etc. ) where you - and your topic - are not included.

So -- how do you grab an audience's attention when they have a complete entertainment center on their phone?  And how do you get an audience of complete strangers to focus on your message?

Here is the secret -- open with their favorite topic: THEM!

In my book, "The Message of You," I have an exercise where I ask readers to phone a few people who are going to be in their audience and ask them, "For you, what are some problems that happen on a bad day?"

Then, just mentioning some of those problems at the start of your speech or standup act is a sure fire way to engage everyone -- especially if you do it with some humor.

One quick way to do this is to put the audiences' problem into the "List of Three" formula: general problem, general problem, their specific problem.

For example:

"There are a lot of problems in the world, like terrorism (general), tornadoes (general), and cafeterias that are always out of spoons (their specific problem)."

You'll get their attention - and get them to laugh.

Do you have more ideas on how to use this formula?  Post with your "List of Three" on my and the top 5 funniest will get a free download of "How to Create Observational Humor."

47 comments:

Bre Richards said...

Weather in the northeast sure is un- predictable you can have a Snow storm bury you, a flash flood drown you or a tornado rip off your roof while your peeing!

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Weather in Chicago can be really unpredictable. You can get snow one day, hail the next day and bird poop the third day!

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Hello Santa Barbara Gay Pride! The only place in the world where you can get a beautiful ocean view while dining at The Four Seasons and then find yourself in the bathroom stall next to Oprah...(Act out: “Don't forget to wash your hands Op!”)

Phyllis Kirigin said...

There are advantages to having children later in life--you more experienced, mature and you don't have to lean over so far to nurse them.

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sukey said...

My list of three: Even really successful people, at some point in the life do something incredibly stupid. You could over use your credit, get married with no prenup or you JUST TRIED to help a Nigerian Prince transfer 5 million dollars to the US!

Ruth Frechman said...

You know you are having a stressful day in Los Angeles, when an earthquake wakes you up at 5 am; it takes 2 hours to get from Sherman Oaks to Santa Monica; your tattoo artist misspells your boyfriend's name.

Lindsey said...
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sooze21 said...

There is so much to worry about: everything from your dog's self-esteem to decapitation by ceiling fan. When my daughter was in Colombia and hadn't tweeted all day, I was sure she was locked in the trunk of a drug lord's sedan.

Lindsey said...

Lindsey said...
I'm pretty easy going, but some things really get under my skin.I'm learning that some problems are universal... Let's see hands of those who have shared this misery: Say, you have housemates, kids or even a significant other. It usually goes like this:

1. You discover only half a swallow of milk in the jug... and you already poured the cereal... or worse yet, you cooked it. Am I right? Tore open with the damn wax paper bag... with your teeth? Yeah!

2. You're on the john, you turn and find just one square of butt wipe... when you really, really need some... and the stash of it happens to be in a cupboard across the room, ALWAYS.

3. Okay, this is the one that I find the most frustrating: You reach into the nightstand... and you discover someone used the last condom ... and you don't remember doin' it.
To make it all worse for me, I live alone...well, I do have a dog... but he took the pledge: Bachelor 'til the Rapture.
I AM learning', some mysteries in Life just have no answer. They're sacred and need to remain mysteries....

Dan said...

As a teacher, it's hard to get high school kids to focus on school. They're busy dealing with gang violence, hormones, and instagram.

LIFE ARCHITECT said...

When you're in business, there's lots of problems to deal with like global markets crashing, the fiscal cliff and your smartphone guessing what you're mean when you write texts.

Michael D. Nye said...

Computers were supposed to make life easier, but new software is good for about 6 months, privacy is becoming a major concern, and I just tried to withdraw money from an ATM with my porn password.

Michael Pascoe said...

The world is full of discomforts. Some have a deadly disease, others can't find work. And still others have to deal with toenail fungus.

Wayne said...

I tell you it's a scary world out there. Crime. Disease. Kardashians reproducing.

Wayne said...

My wife is much more than just a wife. She's a cook. A chauffeur. An oil rig roustabout.

kkvonescoreandthirteen said...

Compared to the good old days, now every one is busy all the time. May be because we have more things to do in the same amount of time. Things like Twitter, Facebook, and coming up with funny lists of three for blog comments.

Kannon said...

I hate my job as a pharmacist, i work 8 hours a day, deal with rude customers & i'm taking Prozac!

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